You know how sometimes you just wonder "what happened’ to someone from your past. Well, Bec had told me that my ex – you know the azzhat that threw me through a window – decided to get himself a jobby-job, probably for one of the first times since I finally got the strength to leave him. Granted Bec was giving me a heads up as if to say "Yo, Lys – if you are in town do NOT go to WallyWorld – jackazz is working there".
All was done and then it hit me out of the blue the other night, whatever happened to his son J. – his son should be in his late teens (well, he’s actually 20 but still). Granted, while I was with jackazz, he was a quasi-absentee father to J. quite frankly because he really had no interest. He was all about "spending time" with J. as long as he was sleeping and his mother was watching him. His ex-wife had major issues with me spending time with her son and I wasn’t one to really challenge her. She had some seriously major personal demons according to my ex and his mother and I wanted no part of that.
Well, the other night I decided to Google and was so disappointed to find that not only has J. basically morphed into his father, but also has a child, (if I read this right) is narcissistic (like his father), allegedly abusive and really has gone into a bad spiral. Also, his sister has some major issues and their mother has passed. It about broke my heart when I read all the negativity and, quite frankly, I wonder if I had just challenged my ex’s ex-wife on spending time with J. if I could have been a positive influence of some sort. I know it is what it is but no one should go through life like that and I feel horrid not only for J., but his child and his child’s mother.
The long and the short of it is that if you have a chance to be a positive influence, please try. If I had just taken a stand, J. might not be in the situation he’s in.
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